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Becoming Allies is a book that has been written for several different audiences.


  • Most of all it is written for abusive partners who are enrolled in a program.  It can be a required or recommended reading that attendees of abuse intervention programs can read on their own, straight through.  It can also be used like a textbook where everyone in the group is asked to read a certain chapter between groups with the next group focusing on material related to that particular chapter.


  • It is written for abusive partners who are not yet in a program or are just starting out on their journey of self-awareness.  It should be noted that throughout the book they are encouraged to consider enrolling in a group for abusive partners if they are not presently in one.  This may also be a first step in helping to raise their awareness about this issue in their lives.  The next step would be to enroll in a program.


  • Professionals in the field are likely to find it a helpful and informative book to read.  It is likely to validate many of the observations, thoughts, and perceptions of more seasoned abuse intervention professionals.  It provides an excellent and comprehensive introduction to the issue of abusive partners for those newer to the field.  Everyone is likely to learn from reading this book as it introduces some distinct concepts developed by the author such as radiating intensity, primary accountability, the bully effect, and preemptive reassurance, among others. 


  • Survivors and those professionals who work with them are also likely to find this book helpful and informative in better understanding what drives abusive behavior while also clearly naming many aspects of the abused partner’s experience. 


For more information or if you need assistance in purchasing Becoming Allies, or would like to order in bulk, please use the order form below, or call our office at (503) 297-7979. Phones are answered Monday through Friday from 9:00am to 5:30pm.


Order forms can be mailed, emailed, or faxed to Allies in Change's main office:


1675 SW Marlow Avenue, STE 110

Portland, OR. 97225


Fax: (503) 297-7980


You can help support the important work of Allies in Change financially in two different ways.

The first is to purchase the book Becoming Allies... directly from us through our website.  When you purchase directly from AIC, the nonprofit receives more of the book's financial proceeds compared when you purchase the book through a standard retailer, while the cost to you is the same.  The second is to consider making a tax-deductible contribution to the agency, which is a 501(c)3 private non-profit.  This additional revenue will allow us to continue to improve and develop our services as well as subsidize trainings and consultation we provide to other programs from all over.  

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